Vijay (Jay) Sandher
Calm, practical support for difficult life problems
About Vijay
Vijay (Jay) Sandher supports people dealing with stress, anxiety, addictions, trauma and abuse, grief and depression. He introduces a calm, steady presence and helps clients talk through painful experiences. Jay explains things in simple terms and focuses on small, practical steps people can use between sessions.
Jay works from the belief that each person knows their own story best. He helps people notice their strengths and build on them. Sessions are collaborative - he listens, reflects, and offers ideas the client can try out.
Background and approach
His approach draws on attachment-based work, client-centred methods, and trauma-focused techniques. That means he pays attention to relationship patterns, keeps the session focused on the person in front of him, and addresses the impact of distressing events when it feels safe to do so. Jay has seven years of professional experience and holds BACP registration.
He practises with clear, straightforward language and avoids technical jargon so people can focus on progress rather than terms. Sessions are offered in English and Punjabi, and Jay accepts international clients. People usually start by describing what brings them to therapy and what they hope to change, then they and Jay shape a plan together.
The work can include short exercises, practical coping tools, and chance to make sense of difficult memories. Jay aims to make the early sessions manageable. He helps clients set realistic goals and reviews progress regularly so the work stays relevant and useful.
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Sessions & fees
How attachment and trauma work online
Attachment-based work focuses on how past relationships shape current feelings and reactions. Online sessions let people talk through patterns that affect trust, closeness and emotional safety in everyday life. Client-centred counselling keeps the session focused on the person's perspective and priorities, with the therapist listening and reflecting rather than directing the process. Trauma-focused therapy addresses the effects of distressing events with tailored techniques to reduce their hold on daily life.Choosing the best approach is part of the work. Jay will discuss options and help decide what feels most useful based on a person's goals, history and preferences. That decision is collaborative and can change over time as needs shift.
Online formats offer practical flexibility. Video calls are close to face-to-face and work well for in-depth conversation. Phone sessions need less bandwidth and can be easier to fit into a busy day. Live chat or text-based messaging lets people check in between sessions or use shorter, written check-ins when speaking is difficult. These options make it easier to keep therapy going around work, care duties and travel, and to try different formats to see what suits best.
| Session length | Typically 50 minutes |
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| Client ages | Adults, 18 and over |
| Fees | Subscription via BetterHelp, cancel anytime |
| Insurance | Not billed directly |
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Areas of focus
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Also listed
- Abandonment
- Attachment issues
- Autism and Asperger Syndrome
- Avoidant personality
- Cancer
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Codependency
- Commitment issues
- Control issues
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Dependent personality
- Depression
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Emptiness
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Fertility issues
- Grief
- Hospice and end-of-life counselling
- Immigration issues
- Infidelity
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Mood disorders
- Narcissism
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Paranoia
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Post-traumatic stress
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Self-harm
- Sex addiction
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sexual dysfunction
- Smoking / vaping cessation
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Traumatic brain injury
- Veteran and Armed Forces Issues
- Workplace issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 7 years
- Registered with
- BACP
- Languages
- English, Punjabi
