Ilaria Calussi
Compassionate relational counselling for parents and partners
About Ilaria
Ilaria Calussi helps people who are worried about relationships, parenting and the effects of trauma. Ilaria is non-binary and brings 25 years of experience to sessions. They communicate in English and Italian and offer therapy to people in the United Kingdom and internationally.
People come for support with relationship strains, parenting pressures, ADHD and issues linked to attachment and abandonment. Ilaria also works with concerns such as adoption and foster care, autism and Asperger syndrome, chronic illness and caregiver stress.
Background and approach
Sessions are aimed at making day-to-day life feel more manageable and relationships clearer. Ilaria uses approaches that centre on how people connect with each other. Therapy tends to focus on patterns in relationships, practical steps to change unhelpful thoughts or behaviours, and exploring feelings that get stuck after trauma.
The work is adaptable and shaped around the person sitting in front of the therapist. Before independent practice, Ilaria spent many years in charities and the NHS. Roles have included managing school services, supervising social care teams, and work at the National Autism Unit.
They also lecture in psychology and counselling at the Open University. Sessions can be conducted by video, phone, chat or messaging to fit different needs. Costs vary by location and use a cancellable subscription model.
To begin, people choose the Start Therapy button and complete a short matching questionnaire before scheduling. Ilaria holds BACP accreditation, which is shown as BACP. This background informs a practical, down-to-earth approach that aims to help people find clearer ways of relating and coping.
What Ilaria works with
How Ilaria works
Listed by Ilaria among the ways they work.
Listed by Ilaria among the ways they work.
Listed by Ilaria among the ways they work.
Listed by Ilaria among the ways they work.
Listed by Ilaria among the ways they work.
Listed by Ilaria among the ways they work.
Sessions & fees
How relational approaches work online
Attachment-Based Therapy looks at how early connections shape current relationships. It can help when people notice repeating patterns in how they attach to others or feel abandoned. Client-Centred Therapy focuses on listening and understanding from the counsellor's point of view. It helps people find their own solutions by being heard and accepted. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, or CBT, targets unhelpful thoughts and behaviours and offers practical tools to try between sessions.Finding the right approach is part of the work together. The therapist will talk with the client about goals, preferences and what feels most useful. Choices about methods are made collaboratively and can change as progress is made.
Online sessions are available by video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging which provides flexibility. Video calls allow face-to-face conversation when a longer, in-depth session is needed. Phone sessions are useful when bandwidth is limited or a quieter setting is easier. Chat or messaging suits short check-ins, ongoing reflection, or people who prefer not to be on camera. These options help fit therapy around work, family life and travel and make it easier to keep continuity of care.
| Session length | Typically 50 minutes |
|---|---|
| Client ages | Adults, 18 and over |
| Fees | Subscription via BetterHelp, cancel anytime |
| Insurance | Not billed directly |
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Areas of focus
What this therapist works with
Most often
- Relationship issues
- Family conflicts
- Trauma and abuse
Also listed
- Abandonment
- ADHD
- Adoption and foster care
- Attachment issues
- Autism and Asperger Syndrome
- Avoidant personality
- Blended family issues
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Codependency
- Communication problems
- Control issues
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Emptiness
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- Immigration issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Life purpose
- Midlife crisis
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Parenting issues
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Post-traumatic stress
- Postpartum depression
- Pregnancy and childbirth
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sexuality
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Somatization
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 25 years
- Registered with
- BACP
- Languages
- English, Italian
